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ENVY: You are being envied! 

February 24, 2017
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Envy is one such emotion that we all must have felt at least once in our life. Being Envy doesn’t always qualify you as a villain! But yes, it can put you in a turbulent proposition to either outshine the one you are Envy of or feel sorry for yourself for being envious.
Having said that; is Envy good or bad? Well, it all depends on one’s mental abilities and character.

Man of the house has recently been bitten by a “fitness bug”, and to my astonishment a very serious bug this time. Early morning walks & salads in dinner started flaunting the positive signs. Boasting was never so far then, I was all set to listen over the top brags… still I felt this sudden pang of: What about ME???? I was envious!! Yes, I got envious of his firmed tummy and loosened trousers sizes. But this ‘being envy‘ helped to route out my way to fitness, and today we both are proud of our “mission to fitter soon“.

What if I wouldn’t have lost any weight or started following his way to get healthy? Would I be depressed or insecure? Naaahhh… I would have simply pushed it off to next month or later sometime.

I remember this incident from my college when one of my batchmates scored a little lesser grades than her expectations. She was all snobs & tears, I consoled her with ‘try next time, it’s alright even I got almost similar scores’… well a decent enough approach to save the day. But her emotional circumference was stuck on, “How could he score better than me!! I have better looks & luck, I will ruin him!” These words haunted my many hostel nights; thinking that a person so easy to approach or super friendly can become such venomous due to Jealousy/Envy.

There is a very thin line between being Envy or Hateful, I would still consider Envy as a better emotion than hatred.

Weaker will turn Envy into Hate in an instant, Hopeful will transform Envy into Ambition/Aspirations.       – anonymous 

What pushes our boundaries to get green with Envy?

  • Insecurities
  • Extreme dissatisfaction
  • Negative/low self esteem
  • Comparisons 
  • Unable to handle emotional fluctuations 

Is there any way to stop being Envy? Well yes, the trigger is with you so is the extinguisher. I Envy all those yummy mummies who still look fabulous and absolutely sculpted. But then, when I look into the mirror and see a happy & content face smiling back at me… I just let the envy pang pass.

It’s very much in your own control to cease this wild emotion; talk it out to your trusted peers, think positive and focus your energy on, ‘What I have, keep yourself busy in what you like the most. The Creator has blessed us all with our strengths, it’s up to us how we convert those strengths into opportunities.

Thanks for reading!

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When we talk about self-love it reflects the idea of being affectionate towards yourself. Now, that does not mean you can overlook the bad habits or wrong choices. Be good to yourself. Period.

Take an example of fitness enthusiasts, they are regular and particular with their fitness regime not to show the world but for themselves. Happiness comes when you do something good for yourself, it may start with a negligible change but you feel happy with every ounce of marking. Remember, self-love is the key to your happiness.


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The only problem arises with self-love is that sometimes others perceive it as selfishness. When you love yourself, you make a conscious decision of keeping self-happiness important. But selfish people, for them they themselves are the ONLY priority. So, remember you are just addressing your happiness, and loving yourself as you love and care about others.

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Don’t think too much. Just do what makes you Happy.

– Buddha Teachings

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If you know me as a person, I bet you know what I am talking about. I am one of those rare creatures, who don’t mind being hilarious. Even if I am the focal point of the joke, I can take it in high spirits. Unless you insult my footwear or handbag or the shade of my lipstick; in that case, I am touchy you see! Happiness acts like a magnet, it attracts positivity and joy. When there are so many things in this world to get happy for, why fret on small disappointments?

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Writing gives me happiness, a feeling of fulfillment and content that’s tough to find otherwise. When I attempted AtoZ2018 ‘Gleeful Parenting‘, it was tough and mindbogglingly exciting too. Who doesn’t like challenges, it takes you to a different level altogether. With such blogging challenges, we can achieve various benefits –

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Recently, when daily tabloids highlighted the figures of depression cases in India and the World, it was shocking and beyond belief. Depression, persistent sadness, emptiness, anxiety, insomnia there are various names and reasons for a mental or neurological disorder. Negativity seeps so deep in us, that we ignore the real good happening around us.

This time with A to Z Challenge, my aim is to bring a positive change in our lives through these 26 posts. I will be writing on ‘My Happiness Mantra‘, sharing my own reasons to be happy and gratitude towards life.

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