Self Love ain’t a Crime

what is self love

I was in the middle of my last semester of MBA when a hospitality giant came with pre-placement offers at the college. Few students were selected for an interview, and I was one of them. Things and tide were in my favor and I was recruited as a Banquet Sales Executive. Training was smooth, and soon I was on the solo run to fetch sale against the monthly targets. The charm, glamour, and magnanimity of hospitality was an everyday routine. All was well at work and with studies, but I was missing something. Friends in the college and colleagues at work never understood the dilemma I was going through. A few months later, everyone was surprised when I resigned from the job. Many questions were asked, few called it an absolute absurd act, a hasty decision, an immature action, overreaction, but I was happy.

I lost myself trying to please everyone else. Now I am losing everyone while I am finding myself.

The Buddha

So, what is Self-Love? You deserve all the love and happiness, as much as you shower it on others. There is no harm in thinking about yourself, loving others doesn’t mean sacrificing your own peace of mind or happiness. Many great scholars, learned people, even Buddha have written about self-happiness and love.

self-love quotes

Self Love is not a Crime –

When we talk about self-love it reflects the idea of being affectionate towards yourself. Now, that does not mean you can overlook the bad habits or wrong choices. Be good to yourself. Period.

Take an example of fitness enthusiasts, they are regular and particular with their fitness regime not to show the world but for themselves. Happiness comes when you do something good for yourself, it may start with a negligible change but you feel happy with every ounce of marking. Remember, self-love is the key to your happiness.

“You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserves your love and affection.”

Gautam Buddha

The only problem arises with self-love is that sometimes others perceive it as selfishness. When you love yourself, you make a conscious decision of keeping self-happiness important. But selfish people, for them they themselves are the ONLY priority. So, remember you are just addressing your happiness, and loving yourself as you love and care about others.

Why self love is important for happiness.

Self-Love is not selfish, you cannot truly love another until you know how to Love yourself.



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10 thoughts on “Self Love ain’t a Crime

  1. I feel. Self love is the first step towards acceptance and happiness. You can’t keep giving love to the world around you if your own heart isn’t nourished with enough love. Also, that’s the best way to retain my sanity and spread positivity.

  2. You’ve echoed my thoughts Deepika. I too turned to blogging after I realising the stresses of my job were causing me anxiety and other health problems. The hospitality industry is notorious for job dissatisfaction. Leaving such a job isn’t foolish, it’s the smart thing to do.

  3. We deserve all the love and happiness, as much as we shower it on others. Like they say, “when admiring other people’s gardens, don’t forget to tend to your own flowers”. Thanks for the reminder, Dipika!

  4. 100% agreed with you ??khud ki khushi k liye bhi jeena hai to sabse pehle khud se pyaar karna hoga, nahi to hum me aur machine me kta farak?
    Gautam Buddha ne bhi yehi to kaha hai )

  5. I totally agree with each and every word of the post. We can’t make feel others happy If we are not satisfied and happy from inside. Loved your post.

    1. This post is especially for those women who sacrifice their whole life for their children and husbands.

      They don’t know about the true meaning of self-love. While every woman should adopt self-love.

  6. Self love is not a crime, but when you start practising it, you are made to feel like it is. It was enlightening to read your post, and I totally get why you may have resigned.

  7. Self love is so important and we all , mostly women need to understand that. Unless our heart and body are happy with self, we can never keep others happy. A beautiful read Dipika.

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