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TRADITIONS are not to Preserve the ASHES; but to PASS on the FLAME.Β – Gaustav Mahler

Why Traditions

What does the Dictionary say? ‘The transmission of customs or beliefs from generation to generation, or the fact of being passed on in this way.‘ Traditions are all about sharing the beliefs & ideologies from one generation to another. These beliefs are formed with experience, knowledge & responsibilities. Also when this transition takes place the bond between older & younger generation strengthens too. It also gives a sense of belonging to the community, family, society & your own origin.

Are Traditions in Family really needed?

A family is the most important part of our life, friends, relations, society, etc so why not traditions! People have different views on the word – TRADITION. Some call it regressive, mandate, or forced down. But for me,Β traditions are just about passing the baton to next in the LINE.

Making beautiful rangolis on Diwali, preparing particular dishes for special occasions. Playing with colors on Holi, praying, etc.. these are all part of the family’s tradition. Our few ‘guidelines’ which keep the love, happiness, respect intact between relations. With our busy lives today; we all are pre-occupied with own goals & aims. Tradition is something which gives us happy memories for a lifetime.

Traditions keep us together

Holidays, Festivals are the times when we unite and celebrate happiness together. I love when we all ladies of the house come together and discuss food. When Dad brings gifts for everyone, without even asking the sizes and favorite colors :D. And trust me it always fit perfectly well. When kids get the liberty to play & enjoy freely under the grandparent’s regime. When I transform into ‘Ghar ki bahu’ (daughter in law). This is not a regression, nor a bondage but LOVE. The family tradition which gives immense pleasure & a sense of satisfaction.

Recently we celebrated ‘Karwa-Chauth’ were Indian ladies observe a whole day fasting (no water or food) for a long life of their partners. We had a huge war of words on social media channels about this ‘ritual’. Gave it many names, but I am sure if you ask the ladies who observe this fast – ‘Why do you observe this fast?’ The answer would be – ‘I like doing it!’. We can have our own views of looking at a ritual, tradition, culture, but in the end, we do what makes us happy.

Traditions keep the family together

I have seen preparation of special delicacies during festivals since childhood.Β On Diwali, we visit family, friends and give them a box of sweets & some mixed salted snacks. The reason is simple – strengthening the bond of love. Today, passing on the same to my child by including her from the preparation to execution. It helps them in understanding it better.

With the changing times, traditions to evolve. With a little tweak here n there, traditions compromise from their original shape to fit in today’s fast pacing time. Else the same family tradition looks like a burden and pushes you away instead of bringing in happiness.

This time on Diwali; instead of the traditional attire for special occasions – A Saree, I wore an Indian Ethnic dress – Anarkali suit. It’s just a small change, but for many families, these small tweaks become reasons of feuds. Hence, it’s important that we keep the traditions alive and not the other way around.

Traditions expand cultural belonging

This I have witnessed and felt when was in an alien land away from home. During weekends when professional life quits; and you are on your own for 2 days – community becomes family. I visited a few places of my tradition & cultural importance, and suddenly weekends were something – I would look up-to in the entire week. That’s how traditions unite us. Be it family or Community.

There are few family traditions which we follow & try to adhere – always. Like –

  • Having one meal in a day with family; could be breakfast or dinner. But sit, eat together & yes without gadgets.
  • A must visit to the temple on all birthday’s, anniversary. Again this is nothing to do with religion, but a reason to spend quality time together.
  • Weekend role reversal – the man of the house will either cook or prepare one dish. This is sheer JOY πŸ˜‰ & of-course a way to cut the gender discrimination to NIL.
  • Family gathering – at least ONE in 365 days. We try to make it twice but when time & office doesn’t permit. Try to utilize that one crucial holiday ONLY with family. Making Memories.
  • Morning prayers – I am not too much of a religious person, but I do believe in supreme force. Hence, every morning, join your hands & say THANKS for giving us what we have.

This is our household list of family traditions, hope you enjoyed the read. Do share with us your most favorite tradition in the comments below.

Β© Dipika Singh

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35 Comments

Mayuri Nidigallu · October 20, 2017 at 1:36 pm

Traditions are very important. They keep family together and customs and our culture alive.
I love this
A must visit to temple on all birthday’s, anniversary’s. Again this is nothing to do with religion; but a reason to spend quality time together.
and follow it too.
Loved reading the post and your family traditions, Dipika.

Neha Garg · October 20, 2017 at 8:22 pm

This was my second Diwali that I celebrated away from my parent’s house and at my in-law’s house. Since my In-laws are not big on traditions, I so missed my mother’s constant complaints to get things done on time be it decorating the house, making the snacks, laying out rangoli, lighting up diyas or the final arrangements for evening puja. I now understand how those things had such deep meaning that I included my husband and mother-in-law in the preparations at my new house. And my happiness knew no bounds when my new home was covered in brilliant fairy lights, had a beautiful rangoli at the doorstep and the puja place was beautifully done up. These traditions bind us all together as a family and make the relations, new and old, strong.

SHALINI · October 21, 2017 at 3:33 am

I have been on my own for a long time now and its ocassion like Diwali that do tend to make me a little whimsical but I too carry out the traditions for Diwali as learnt by me while growing up in my parents home! I have just simplified them to suit my lifestyle but diyas, pooja, halwa puri , rangoli – all part of my diwali tradition and yes wearing a pair of new clothes too!!
Loved reading your view on Karva Chauth – its not regressive or anti feminist as it is ususally portrayed by the “strong” women on social media – You like it and so you do it – thats the end of it!! πŸ™‚

Shilpa Garg · October 21, 2017 at 6:28 am

Agree with you, traditions are important. They help the families stay connected. While, I follow a lot of traditions in my daily life (meals with family, doing certain things together, morning prayers, role reversals etc), but I am somehow moving away from the rituals and traditions for festivals, which is frowned upon my by mom. I know, I need to get my act together in this matter… πŸ˜€

Zainab · October 21, 2017 at 11:19 am

Lovely post dipika … I’m trying very hard to start the gadget free dinners or any meals!

Dr Roshan Radhakrishnan · October 21, 2017 at 1:13 pm

the first point you made – about having a meal together without gadgets every day is actually a must in today’s world. I feel it is highly underrated.

Sabeeka Lambe · October 21, 2017 at 2:55 pm

Loved reading this.. I too feel family traditions are so important to help to bond, show love and feel loved .. and I realized this after I moved to Pune post marriage where we have no relatives… It felt liberating initially but we always miss the traditions especially during festivities and we make it a point to now go back to Bombay and spend such occasions with the family and extended family, as well as have created some traditions of our own with friends who are like family.

Monika · October 21, 2017 at 4:34 pm

I loved your post . Traditions hold an important place in our lives , our hearts. Be it making rangoli on diwali or looking at Ur husband along with the moon or lightning up each others faces with different colours on holi or donating something in the name of the departed souls of the family. Yes they keep us together emotionally .

Khushboo · October 21, 2017 at 6:04 pm

Very Beautiful and detailed post on family loved reading it..

Tripti Charan · October 21, 2017 at 7:28 pm

Absolutely agree with you and changes do bind us together πŸ™‚

Shreemayee Chattopadhyay · October 22, 2017 at 1:43 am

I agree with you Deepika. Tradions make us getting closer and being in the perfect bond with each other. I like your writing. I feel the warmth in each word when I was reading.

Rohan Kachalia · October 22, 2017 at 6:58 am

Traditions are very important, and it does keep the family bonded and united.

Anchal · October 22, 2017 at 9:20 am

I agree with you. These traditions keep the family close.

Snehal · October 22, 2017 at 11:10 am

My dadi always teaches us about our family traditions! πŸ™‚

Mrinal · October 22, 2017 at 11:41 am

It was a lovely read.. I agree to your views too but I feel it should be left on an individual to carry forward a tradition or not.. because we have many many traditions that can not be justified too.. if a tradition promotes quality time with loved ones and well being, it should be taken forward and if it is just another orthodox thought of the patriarchal society, it shouldn’t​! 😊

Varsh · October 22, 2017 at 12:03 pm

Such a feel-good post, Dipika! I too believe we need to make our kids learn about our festivals and their importance from us.
I tweak a little bit of this and that to suit my beliefs, like your Anarkali dare, and I think we must be allowed that as long as we let the essence of it stay intact.

Anubhuti · October 22, 2017 at 3:25 pm

A family hug everyday became a tradition after our son was born ..making the bonding stronger each day… lovely post!! πŸ™‚

Team MocktailMommies · October 22, 2017 at 3:29 pm

Traditions are so integral to our lives… they are just inseparable. Will there be any meaning, charm left in our lives if they go missing?
One tradition that we religiously follow as a family is reading atleast a page before going to bed.
-Anagha from Team MocktailMommies

Amrit Kaur · October 22, 2017 at 4:49 pm

Traditions are really important as they help in a forming a better tomorrow world. I too have taken traditions from my family and it will go on forever.

Jayshree · October 23, 2017 at 3:31 am

Traditions are so important but now days no one even care to follow this
..

Glow Origin · October 23, 2017 at 5:00 am

I agree with you, very beautiful post traditions are important to be followed

Neha · October 23, 2017 at 12:11 pm

Traditions were a way of staying connected and having some fun time, away from the mundane day life, is what I feel. When we are not bogged down by it, but enjoy it for happiness is when it becomes beautiful. Agree with your points Dipika

    gleefulblogger · October 24, 2017 at 3:00 am

    Thanks Neha

Shaunak Marulkar · October 23, 2017 at 6:08 pm

I loved your post and happy to note this. Indeed a positive change from the unnecessary negativity that’s gathered momentum these days on women’s rights, feminism etc – all at a wrong place or wrong context.

By the way, my wife observes a KARVA CHAUTH and I like this ritual πŸ™‚

    gleefulblogger · October 24, 2017 at 2:55 am

    Thank You for visiting and read. Appreciate your time & feedback.

Payal Agarwal · October 24, 2017 at 2:19 am

I follow traditions because I love them. Festivals become meaningful when families are together.

    gleefulblogger · October 24, 2017 at 2:56 am

    Thank You yes, that’s the key.

JayanthyGovindarajan (@JayanthyG) · October 24, 2017 at 10:55 am

Eating together has been something I love. However, due to different work schedules we have let it be with my family. However, at my mil’s place we make it a to do thing. Now with my little one, that one strict rule I follow is no phones near her! I love all your rules. How important it has become to leave the gadget aside and sit together for a talk??

Anita Singh · October 24, 2017 at 7:44 pm

Family tradition hi hai jo hume cultural damage se bachatey hain πŸ‘πŸ‘
Main bhi sab tration pura karne ki koshish jarur karti hu 😍😍
Thanks for sharing dear πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ’πŸ‘ŒπŸ‘Œ

Manisha Garg · October 26, 2017 at 12:12 pm

Traditions, when understood, make so much meaning, help us more than anyone else.
We have created an unnecessary hype of a lot of things including this, do what you like but understand before you speak I feel.
I agree to what you have written Traditions keep us together.

AuraOfThoughts MeenalSonal · November 2, 2017 at 10:41 am

Starting quote suits best with the post.

Yes traditions are important and the reasoning and timing behind it too. I generally ask many questions attached to the particular tradition and the answers are overwhelming. So doing something with knowledge and reason adds fun to it and we remember for life.

Cheers
MeenalSonal from AuraOfThoughts

Amit Misra · November 10, 2017 at 2:23 pm

It is only when we move out for education/job and are away from home that we truly feel the importance of these festivals and these bonds.

Healthy Family Lifestyle · July 29, 2019 at 5:34 pm

This is a good,common sense article.Very helpful to one who is just finding the resouces about this part.It will certainly help educate me.

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