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I am a MOM, Your Superhero! #MujheSabNahiPata

I am a Mom, and Mom knows best!

Being a mom is about learning and discovering new, sometimes trivial, things that you never knew existed before. People rightly say that motherhood changes everything. It’s the phase when a free bird settles on the ground and start nurturing a new life. Motherhood is a journey, an experience, like none other. I think of it as ‘on-the-job training’ – we learn as we experience it first-hand. Today, when I see young moms struggling with the famous five – Feed, Burp, Poop, Clean, and Sleep – it gives me a sense of pride and contentment. But did I sail through that early phase of motherhood comfortably? Definitely not! It was a hell of a roller-coaster ride.

What is your Superpower?

I totally believe in this saying, and why shouldn’t I? We give birth to life, and we nurture it through thick and thin. It is the most selfless love in the whole universe. I recently happened to attend a bloggers’ panel discussion, which presented the same viewpoint but with a twist. And, as a mother, I could instantly connect with their idea of #MujheSabNahiPata (I don’t know everything). It was a powerful panel comprising of Sonali Bendre (actress and author), Dr. Samir Dalwai (pediatrician), Dr. Rupal Patel (child and parent psychologist) and Mrs. Ruchita Dar Shah (founder of the mom community on Facebook – First Moms Club), and it discussed many aspects of motherhood. The discussion made me ponder on a few things, like:

  • As a mother, it is necessary for a woman to know everything there is to know about parenting and her child? And does forgetting something make her a bad mother?
  • How often you hear and see a father being blamed if his child fares poorly at studies? Or how often do you see him getting an earful for wrong behavior on his child’s part?
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mom knows best
You may like to read Motherhood and Memories.

Our society makes mothers feel vulnerable; the pressure of trying to get everything right causes us more harm than good. We need to realize that it’s normal for a mother to seek help. It begins with all mothers coming forth and proclaiming #MujheSabNahiPata. At the above-mentioned event, we mothers tied a knot in our attire to remind ourselves to share our #MujheSabNahiPata stories with other moms.

History repeats itself… not anymore!

When I go down memory lane, I remember the pains my mother had undergone. I had fallen off a bicycle once in my childhood. My mom was told, then, to get me trained first before being allowed to ride a bicycle. Even then, it wasn’t her who taught me cycling; it was my dad.

When my math scores dipped over the years, it was my mom who was pulled up in school and at home for not paying enough attention to my studies. Yet, it wasn’t her but my dad who taught me mathematics.

I chose to marry the man I loved, but it was again my mom who was subjected to undue criticism and snide comments.

Why have we allowed this to become such a commonplace phenomenon? Sonali Bendre shared her own experiences of the daily struggles even a celebrity mother must face. Ruchita Shah mentioned that mothers from all walks of society feel this unspoken burden. Her online community on Facebook gets many such queries from mothers, not just from India but from across the world.

Bollywood diva
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My motherhood journey and learnings

My daughter will soon be seven years. She is a bubbly, chirpy girl, and growing with her is the most precious time of my life. I was almost 30 when she was born, and I had my share of medical conditions like post-partum depression and hypertension. Her birth transformed me from an ambitious young banker into a hands-on-mommy, and I would like to share the experience with you.

Earlier, during my decade-long corporate career, I had been consistently appreciated for my quick learning and outstanding performance. Whether it was bringing about a change in the system or curating team-building activities, I knew it all and had done it all. As an educationist, I was nicknamed “Ms. Kotler of Marketing Class”. Later, even when this know-it-all girl was pregnant, the trend continued.

Mothers are real Superheroes, without a cape!

Thanks to Google and some online portals on parenting, I could deal fairly comfortable with my pregnancy; it wasn’t rocket science. I knew exactly what to eat when to feel the movement, how to sleep… and so forth. Everything was fine until the moment my daughter was born. When I saw her the first time – a tiny pink life wrapped in cotton cloth – I had no idea how to react: whether to be happy or laugh or cry. How was Google going to help me now? My child was right there, in front of me!

When her gaga-and-giggles did not mean food…

All Out campaign Mujhe sabe nahi pata

The post-delivery briefings were cool. I was told everything – the time to feed, how to feed, how to change nappies… all the essential things. But babies are unpredictable creatures, born possibly, with the sole aim of testing their moms. Mine developed rashes all over her body when my mother-in-law once gave her a body massage. The doctors gave me a big list of on Dos and Don’ts, but this was just the beginning of my journey. My daughter was two years old when she fell from her rocker while I was just an arm’s distance away. She got a gash on her lower chin, which bled profusely. I rushed her to the nearest hospital, where the doctors patched her up in no time. But all hell broke loose when her father learned about the incident.

“Where were you?” “What were you doing?” “Why didn’t you check her safety belt?” “What if she had required a surgery?”

And the woman, who once used to train 120-odd people as a professional, was to be found meekly nodding to her husband’s every question about this incident. I felt horrible and guilty within, and I pledged to never let my child get hurt again.

Also, read Looking back at my Parenting Journey.

In the monsoons of 2016, my daughter got very sick around the time of her birthday. It started with a simple cold and flu, but her body temperature skyrocketed by midnight. We consulted our doctor the next morning, who identified the symptoms as those of H1N1. Swine flu in kids, as you may know, is something to really worry about. It felt like my whole world had turned upside-down. We gave her the best of care and she completely recovered within a fortnight, but the incident had taught me a lesson for life – that you can never beat the uncertain, and that it’s okay to be human and cry on someone’s shoulder, even if you are a mother.

Watch this heart-warming video on a similar theme by All Out. It depicts a very possible scenario and underlines a mother’s vulnerability.

Women seem to be bound by this unwritten clause of “you are a mother”. But how on earth can a mother predict a perfectly random occurrence, like the possibility that her child could be bitten by a mosquito and come down with dengue? A mother will always wish the best for her child, but there are simply too many uncertainties in life that can be neither anticipated nor dismissed. So, it’s always better to be ready to fight than to assume that ‘maa sab jaanti hai’ (a mother knows it all).

I am a Mom, and yes I agree with #MujheSabNahiPata
I know everything mom

I know many things as a mother, but there are many other things that I am still learning or seeking to learn from experts. And, no, I do NOT feel ashamed in admitting that #mujhesabnahipata (I don’t know everything). I am ready to learn, and so should you. If you are a mother, tie a knot in your attire today to remind yourself to share your #MusheSabNaiPata experiences. Your story might just prove useful to some other mom who cares just as much as you for the well-being of her child! I look forward to hearing from you in the comments section.

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25 thoughts on “I am a MOM, Your Superhero! #MujheSabNahiPata

  1. Anita Singh says:

    Sach me ,mujhe to is age bhi itna face karna pada ki ye blog padtey huey aankh bhar aayi, hum sach me jo soch bhi nahi sakte, wo baccho k sath hota hai to ma hi jaanti hai ki us per kya guzar raha hai

  2. Sajid Akhter says:

    Hi Dipika,

    Moms are truly superhero. They look after so many aspect of our life which we take for granted. However, as for all humans there are things which they might know about.

  3. Varsh says:

    Mothers are supposed to be know-it-all right from the time they hold their baby in their arms for the first time and that can be sometimes unfairly judgemental. We learn on the job and everyday and are bound to make mistakes. It is alright to not know everything. #MujheSabNahiPata is a good way to put this point across.

  4. Deepa says:

    Although I believe moms are real superheroes, it’s also true that that we don’t know everything. At times it’s ok to admit we don’t know everything. Rightly said #mujhesabnahinpata

  5. Anahita Irani says:

    Brilliant post yet again. True, I second that, we don’t know everything in life but should be receptive to learn and find out. Kudos to the #mujhesabnahinpata movement

    • Sakshi@tripleamommy says:

      It’s true that moms do not and cannot know everything. That burden needs to be lifted from mom’s shoulders. Three ad though tries to play with audience’s feeling…. Making them feel the child dies…. The dad happily in the background…. The mum in the foreground. Sort of defeats the purpose I think.

  6. Princy Khurana says:

    loved the post. moms are humans too and we were not given a handy book when our kids were born. I am proud to say, I still do not know a lot of things – but I am on a path of learning with my kids – hand in hand.

  7. Sharvari Paivaidya Mehan says:

    I really encore the sentiment and believe in the concept of learning everyday and that includes parenting. I totally love this concept of accepting that i do not know everything.

  8. Tina Basu says:

    It’s nice to see brands acknowledging this – no one is born perfect mom and we learn from imperfections. Every mom is special and their journey is sweet in their own way.

  9. Jhilmil D Saha says:

    This is a great initiative, breaking the stereotype. I am proud to say I am a mom and mujhe sab nahi pata. There’s nothing wrong with that.

  10. Noor Anand Chawla says:

    Beautifully written Dipika! I completely agree with you- moms can never know everything. The video is very heart-warming.

  11. Gunjan (tuggu.n.mommy) says:

    That was a great meet with so many moms sharing their insights. We moms at times takes so much pressure which iabactually not required. Time to be brave enough and accept the fact that we may not be aware of it all

    • Pankti Hemant Parmar says:

      #CLICKWITHINTSAX
      It’s a great feeling to be a mom but also with
      ample of responsibilities! I truly believe that not everyone knows everything be it trivial or important. Our society makes mothers feel vulnerable; the pressure of trying to get everything right causes them more harm than good. We need to realize that it’s normal for a mother to seek help without being asked by the society. It begins with all mothers coming forth and proclaiming with courage #MujheSabNahiPata. which is so so true. It doesn’t mean that mother’s aren’t responsible enough to take care of their wards, but rather learn from them. Kudos to all the mom’s out there who say I don’t know anything!

  12. Kinshoo says:

    That’s such an eye-opener initiative and heart-touching video. It’s so true that mother is blamed for each and everything that happens.

    • Gunjan says:

      Being a mom needs so much more, and it is sad to see when they don’t value the hard times. It is indeed hard to expect a mom to each and every thing especially for a first time mom. It was such an insightful session with so many moms talking about their journey

    • Divya Bansal says:

      Ans2) No, I don’t think that as a mother you know everything becoz there were so many situations in your life in which i can say that you don’t know everything and yes there is no harm in accepting #IDontKnow.
      And I would like share one of your incident in which you accepted that you don’t know everything.
      Here it is……
      “My daughter was two years old when she fell from her rocker while I was just an arm’s distance away. She got a gash on her lower chin, which bled profusely. I rushed her to the nearest hospital, where the doctors patched her up in no time. But all hell broke loose when her father learned about the incident.

      “Where were you?” “What were you doing?” “Why didn’t you check her safety belt?” “What if she had required a surgery?”

      And the woman, who once used to train 120-odd people as a professional, was to be found meekly nodding to her husband’s every question about this incident. I felt horrible and guilty within, and I pledged to never let my child get hurt again.
      I know many things as a mother, but there are many other things that I am still learning or seeking to learn from experts. And, no, I do NOT feel ashamed in admitting that #mujhesabnahipata (I don’t know everything). I am ready to learn,”
      #ClickWithInstax

  13. Chhaya Dhamecha says:

    Yes absolutely right….as a mother it’s not like that we know everything… sometimes we have have to ask some of other frds or someone….n that’s not shameful…my daughter is 5 year today also I ask some questions to frds n family….when my daughter came in my life mujhe milk tha hi nahi….n my daughter was so crying than I ask my molishwali about it n she cleared me….as a mom we all are learners…we learn from our mom or any of the other moms….

  14. Heer Jalundhwala says:

    #ClickWithInstax #ClickWithIntsax I absolutely feel that there is no shame in saying I don’t know. Experience is the best teacher and no one can be a pro always. I always learn from my mistakes and never hesitate to say I don’t know.

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