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Motherhood & Memories: Cherish them for life

June 27, 2017
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I am proud of many things in life but nothing beats MOTHERHOOD!! 
I am not the only one who truly believe in this quote, each and every mother on the planet surely would be proud of this transition. Motherhood memories need to be cherished for life, we all have our own ways and methods to preserve memories, keep them everlasting, don’t we?
Motherhood came unannounced anxiety, curiosity, lots of confusion were my only thoughts then.. but slowly when we progressed together for a common goal, the feeling became overwhelmingly positive and hopeful. Today, when I recall those early days… I feel to pat my own back!!! How well I managed the whole transition all on my own 😉
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I recall those blurred photographs of my childhood, some torn some featureless in my mother’s family album which she treasures more than her jewels 😉 I tried my level hard to flick a couple of those teeny meeny me clicks… but man no Luck!! She’s quite vigilant when comes to saving pics – her all time favourite mom dialogue – “I have just these with me, let me have my memories with me“, no one can utter a single word post that. All I wish if we had the technology then…..

Options to Cherish your Motherhood Memories

        1. Digital Photo Frame

          So that we are living in the gadget world, hence this one tops my list too. I had no idea what this is all about as I was never (even today) a camera person, until I overheard two ladies talking about it during my final trimester of pregnancy. Some clicks on google baba, and bingo I ordered my Digital Photo Frame from XElectronics, this one comes with a remote… You will truly love it.

        2. Portable External Hard Drive with Mobile Device Backup

          On my solo trip to Aussie land way back in 2006, I gifted myself a digital camera (for God know what joy) the real use of that Sony handy camera came to life when we were blessed with our little one (ok so this was the agenda then) I clicked her pictures on hourly basis and saved them on my machine tagging her age, day, year etc. Saving the same on portable HDD is always advisable, I use Seagate 1TB Portable Hard Disk Drive..

      3. My first Baby album

      Like any other new mum, during family and friends visit even I was bombarded with baby care product hampers. But one from Johnson’s Baby Care Collection had something much more interesting and precious. My First Baby Album – Oh I loved the colours and graphics (pink it was 😉 ) Today when my little miss try to read from album and check out her ‘just born picture’ the smile on her face is a blessing.

    1. 4. Quilt made from baby clothes

      This I learned from one Mother Forums on Facebook, I loved the idea as we all love keeping small clothes of our precious ones for various reasons. I had many of her frocks, socks, caps, mittens, pillows, body suits etc… in real good condition. This lady (artist) created a master piece from all those old clothes, what a talent and KYA IDEA HAI MADAM JI.

    2. 5.Baby hand feet casting kit

      Gifted by my better half’s boss, I instantly fell in love with the idea of preserving the hand/feet cast of my miss forever. Whenever, she gets the chance to touch it her first point is to check how much she has grown from the cast… and I yell from behind careful 😉

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Guilt Free Parenting – Keep realistic parenting goals

April 7, 2018
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Guilt-Free Parenting

Araadhya worked till her very last day of pregnancy, she was wheeled inside labour room and by the time things could settle down someone screamed – baby’s crowning! It’s a sonny boy, joys and cheers everywhere; but Araadhya was troubled. Her maternity leave and office’s AGM preparation (annual general meeting) beginning same month. Yearly incentives, promotions, annual allowance increment everything is on stake. After all she has given 8 years of her life to this organization. Keeping her thought aside, she glanced at tiny pink flesh wrapped in soft cotton and suddenly guilt creeped in.

Kashish is Montessori teacher and has a thing with kids. Everyone is fan of her teaching style, which gave her frequent promotions at school and extra brownie points with parents. Her daughter is 13 years, academically brilliant with fascination towards ballet dance. Kashish takes home-tuitions for many students in evening. As final exams were hovering over, she started with extra classes to facilitate last minute doubts. Her daughter’s final ballet performance was dazzling, everyone was gaga about the finesse and poise with which she danced. Kashish accepted congratulatory messages with teary eyes. Tears of guilt for missing her daughter’s grand performance due to professional commitments.

Vasu went to San-Francisco on official tour for four months, leaving his four months pregnant wife behind. He planned and calculated well, within four months he will be back with good amount of savings. They need to save each and every penny for baby now. Time flew by in a whiff, it’s time to pack bags and come back home when he receives an office mail. Project is extended by another three months, client has specifically asked for Vasu as project lead. Anyone else in Vasu’s shoes would have be on cloud nine, but for him this is heart shattering news. He would not be there at his first child’s birth. Guilt engulfs him for missing the most special moment of his life.

Guilt free Parenting – Are we going too harsh on ourselves

Araadhya, Kashish and Vasu are just few names, this could happen with you and me. We all live with highest expectations from ourselves when it comes to parenting. Our focal point in up-bringing of children is ‘best’ of everything. And sometimes, we miss the relativity of this best. When we doubt our methods and contradict decisions, guilt creeps in. The point is – keep realistic parenting goals.

When our daughter asked for pet as birthday present, I explained her the reasons of not having one. She agreed momentarily but later asked for real-life size doll house. I had to again talk her out of the idea due to space crunch. She accepted space is small, and doll house is postponed till we move out from this house. Then one fine day, she asked for fish tank. She caught me off guard with her ideas of where to place it. When we could not achieve her desires, I felt heavy with guilt and inability to fulfill her wish.

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How to over come guilt-free parenting and make it gleeful parenting?

Decide your parenting goals – keep minimum expectations from yourself as a parent. We love our kids more than anything in this world, hence would do best for them always. Hence, stop judging yourself from the eyes of someone else.

Don’t forget you are a human too, being a parent doesn’t make you super human. Don’t be hard on yourself, remember parenting is all about trials-and-errors until you find your style.

Accepting your mistake won’t make you small in their eyes. If you have failed at any task, accept it and learn from it. Holding grudge or feeling guilty will neither help you, nor them. So, just say sorry and move on.

Happiness is in sharing, discuss with them. If you are unable to provide or accomplish expectations, share the same with children. Talking and Tea has sure-shot solution for everything ?

A happy family is not the one which enjoys luxuries and every materialistic thing of world. But the one which has love, trust, faith and honesty as pillars of strength.

This post is written for #BlogchatterA2Z series by Blogchatter, and my theme for this challenge is Gleeful Parenting. Previously from the series –

E for Education beyond Books

F for Father and Child Relationship.

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Opportunities for Learning – Failure is not end of road

April 18, 2018
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“Failure is simply an opportunity to begin again, this time more intelligently.” – Henry Ford

Opportunities – favorable moments or chances. A chance to grab and show your mettle. We get numerous favorable opportunities in life to grab and grow. Sometimes we miss out on certain chances and at times we win, but our failures do not mean we are not worth it. Same applies to our children, they rise or fall but every opportunity teaches a lesson for life. Give them hope of keep going, even if they fall.

A lost-found opportunities saga from past –

At the age of 14, I picked up on learning ‘Kathak’ dance tuition and was pretty good with the ‘todas’ and dance rhythms. Basic was smooth and I could follow the instructions well, but the advanced level got tougher. To excel in the second level, I would practice day and night or whenever get any chance. Mother was not very happy seeing me toil under duress. I recall very well, it was the annual day of dance class everyone was filled with excitement, and some dignitaries were also invited.

Guruji was a great teacher, but a tough disciplinarian. For him, nothing else matters but ‘excellence‘. On the D day, my performance was slotted on the fourth number and I was dead nervous. Nerves got the worst of me, and I fainted in the green room. All I could feel was Guruji shouting and chaos everywhere, some hands shifted this feeble unconscious girl to sick room and that’s it.

Mother narrated the incident to me when I came back to senses, and later I was informed my whole practice gone wasted. Guruji even refused to issue the learner’s certificate, blown out by this fiasco I promised never to dance again. When mother learned about this, she met the school cultural committee and enrolled my name in dance and drama. Year after year I was a constant member of the dance troupe at the school level. Kathak fiasco was forgotten and dusted long back in memory, thanks to mother for providing a new opportunity to learn and grow.

Be the ‘PUSH’ they require –

We are the positive guiding force behind our children, and my heart pains a lot when I read or see children taking drastic steps under pressure. Why do we only accept ‘excellence‘ or ‘outstanding‘ as remarks? Think of the undue pressure we build around our children.

When father used to take my math class around 9th grade, I would get nervous while doing a simple division problem. However, during sessions with mother or at school toughest equations or problems would look easy. It is all about mind-games, how our mind tricks and impacts everyone around.

Some frequently used phrases – “I have spent so much money on your education; don’t disappoint me” may mark a huge impact on child’s brain. Be the positive push and not a warning sign-post in your child’s life.

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Failure is just a process, not the destination

Every failure opens a new door, our role as parents is to guide children towards newer opportunities.

Let them identify their core and develop interest. Forced interests are like a fad, they gain momentum but fizz out soon.

Keep motivating them with positivity, refrain from adding false hopes. Fase expectations bring wrong hopes and unexpected results.

Children are far dearer than trophies or medals, let them choose and decide.

This post is written for #BlogchatterA2Z series by Blogchatter, and my theme for this challenge is Gleeful Parenting.

Previously from the series –

M for Me and Mine.

N for Never say No.

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