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Are you a Kind Mommy??

April 28, 2017
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Kindness, Empathy, Compassionate these are certain qualities we parents wish to have in our kids!!! I recall a funny subject called ‘moral science‘, been taught to us when we were at school some decades back…. which spoke big about being morally correct all the time with classic illustrations from all time greats, But that was merely a SUBJECT to raise some brownie points on result cards. Today this equation is changed; my kid is very much learning the same social adaptations but in a much practical manner called – community service!

The moot point is….. You cannot teach kids being polite when you yourself are on top of your lungs all the time.

You cannot teach your child to be kind, UNLESS you give them basic guidence of human love/humanity.

You cannot teach love & compassion to your kid, when you as parents keep pulling each other down in front of them.

And most importantly,  you cannot make your precious a better human being UNLESS you stop ridiculing others around them.

But are we as mothers following all these basic principles of empathy/kindness?? 
How many times I have seen parents talking rude to their kids on public places. Well, here you are definitely not imbibing discipline in your child, but teaching them – anger outrage in public is OKAY.

When you shoo away a begger or a hawker at traffic snarls or such places, you indirectly teaching your kid – these are some alien creatures crawling over your space. No school or teacher can teach your child basic mannerisms or etiquettes, we at home have to imbibe this in their system by following it ourselves.

Kindness towards others, respect to elderly, compassion for mates, affection for surroundings; these are pillars of our social system. I have witnessed on many instances that today’s young cult of metros (specifically urban areas) young kids, teenies, they are aloof from social beings – it’s either the fault at our upbringing or over disposal of luxuries.

I as a mother make sure my daughter grows up to a gentle, compassionate, lovable person. But at the same time, aware of her surroundings-  she must know what is wrong or right for her. If she’s kind, she must also have courage to raise her voice against wrong. Preaching on such topics is always easy – real task comes when you adapt it and start following. Many a times she stops me over trivial faults of mine saying mom – this is bad manners! It’s a kind enough alarm.to bring me back on track of making a good human at home.
Make sure you never talk low about people around your kids – specially their teachers and other family members.

Do not LIE to kids, their mind is as fast as super computers – such tiny things which we do inadvertently, makes a mark in their RAM.

Teach them about social behaviour in a ‘fun-to-learn‘ manner, instead of being laid down as RULES. Tell them if they say Hello Uncle/Aunty, they will get rewarded by “proud mumma smile“.

I am trying my level best to bring a happy, kind kid wish you are doing the same at your end.

Do share your tips & tricks in  comments… sharing is LOVING 🙂

Linking this post with #MondayMommyMoments by Deepa & Amrita.

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How To Prepare For Pregnancy During the 40s – things to consider for getting pregnant during the 40s

Pregnancy is one of the most special phases in the life of a woman. This is that stage when a young woman transforms into a mother having the responsibility of nurturing a new and vulnerable life. This is a phenomenon that can bring a large number of changes in the life, body, and psyche of a woman. The process is full of new experiences, challenges, and choices. However as many specialists will comply with the fact, the process tends to get difficult with the growing years of a woman.

It is a common fact that many women who start trying for their first child at the age of 40 have o face some fertility issues. This is a very common state of things although not a universal law. There are many women who can get pregnant and can give birth to healthy children without the aid of any treatment, medicines or process like IVF. These treatments and process are quite pricey like the skyrocketing IVF costs in Bangalore.

However getting pregnant at the age of 40 can be a challenge from many different aspects. Let us take a look at some of the probable pitfalls and how can one pass them all with flying colors.

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Checklist for getting pregnant during the 40s

Health –

At the age of, 40 you must remember that your health is no longer what it was at the age of thirty or even less than that. Now it is likely that you must have developed other medical common problems such as blood sugar and pressure. Hence pregnancy at this age can become a bit more complicated than at the younger ages. Hence if you are planning to get pregnant at 40 or have actually conceived already then it is time that you have visited your doctor and have brought the medical problem with a check. Contact your doctor and see that whether all the medicines that you are taking are conducive for the health of the fetus, if not then the medicines need to be changed.

getting pregnant in the 40s checklist for all those who are planning late pregnancy

Very important many women tend to put on weight at the age of 40. Hence try to get into a good habit such as light but vigilant exercise. You can consult a dietician and see every item that you eat. However please do not deprive yourself of anything at this stage.

Remember that yours and your partner’s health factors contribute to the strength of the fetus which is why pregnancies in 40 always are at larger chances of miscarriages.

Psyche –

Pregnancy means that you will experience a large number of hormonal changes due to which you can have major mood swings. This is something that is unlikely to change even at 40, although you are likely to get more patient and understanding at this age.

Career –

Please plan in terms of your career as well, at this stage. Please do not exert yourself too much which could be harmful to you and the baby.

Pregnancy is a wonderful experience. Investigations have revealed that a larger number of women at their 40s are getting pregnant and are giving birth to healthy babies. Hence good luck to all your ladies in their 40s out there!

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Travelling with Kids – Make it Easy

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Travelling with kids – well many might get jitters even thinking about it! Kids, our super smart aliens get over excited learning about the travel plans. And at times this – over the board excitement takes a toll. For our family travelling is a routine job, as visiting parents once in a year is A necessity. Most of our travels are just daughter and me. Better half has the obligations of corporate responsibilities; hence my freelancing career provides flexibility of timings. Earlier it was super easy, just pack few things and board a train or take a flight. Who plans for traveling? It’s just a 24 hours joy ride by train. Or in 2 hours we will be with them – why sweat! However, all these things fell upside down, when we got new arrival in family.

Travelling & Kids – it’s all about planning right!

Our first travel as a family of three, was when she was just 6 months. Taking her to colder North India from hot & humid Mumbai was tricky. We packed and stuffed everything related to her needs, from nappies to towels, baby detergents to body washes, toiletries to fixing meals and even her utensils. Seeing the weighing scale going red at the airport made us realize what a fool we had been.

Our next visit was to Goa when she was almost two years, we took road ride and what fun it was. Carrying just the right kind of things and ONLY necessities. Though I recall carrying a hotplate to warm her quickie meals or milk in hotel room. However, it was never even touched as it was a child-friendly hotel.

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Plan it well –

Just recently I had been to New Delhi with my girl, and what fun it was. We enjoyed our travel while talking, listening to music, drawing and solving funny puzzles. So, the crux is plan in advance and according to the need.

  • Plan the travel dates rights, keep the schedule in check to avoid unnecessary idle days.
  • With the conveyance facilities improving across our country, it is very easy to book pick up and drop to travelling points.
  • Web check-in help you in getting rid of long queues at Airports.
  • Travel paper less. Searching for tickets – digging in your hand bag again and again is very tedious. Keep the soft copy of tickets on your smart phone and travel hassle free.
  • Re-confirm the hotel arrangements just a day before your departure.
  • Tag the luggage well, mention your or emergency contact numbers clearly – use permanent/ waterproof ink.
  • Use locks with the keys, number locks – I always jumble them and later repent. Godrej has got some real strong & stylish locks; check those out.

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Travelling with kid does not mean packing whole house!

I recall my earlier days of travelling with parents, we would pack every thing possible in those big gigantic suitcases. And stuffing those suitcases under the train berth racks was another tug-of-war. But for me travelling with kid = travelling light. Pack only what you need, and reuse as much a possible.

Travel Friendly packing –

While preparing travel schedule check out the days& nights you are out of home. Plan and carry according to these days.

  • Carry travel friendly packs of toiletries. Use the smaller bottles for essentials.
  • Use zip lock pouches instead of carrying whole cereal boxes or kid’s favourite snack.
  • Carry smaller unbreakable medicine bottles for kids instead of whole stash of medical care kit.
  • Keep few T-shirts that can be re-used with the denims or thick bottoms.
  • Travelling to colder places – let kids wear warmers/thermals inner ware doubled with a heavy bomber jacket.
  • Avoid carrying eatables as Airports or Railways Stations today have huge variety of healthy & hygienic food. If you must – then carry dry snacks.
  • Keep kid’s suitcase/bag separate, it is much easier to handle when things are packed separately.
  • Save space for bag-packs – I avoid carrying handbags, instead take a bag pack. This offers larger space to keep miscellaneous.
  • En-route entertainment – keep drawing books, puzzles, music, story books etc or if carrying laptop; it’s sorted.

These are few travelling tips from our experience, what is your most advisable tip? Share with us in comments below.

Linking this post with Deepa & Amrita for #mondaymommymomments.

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