“No matter how good or bad life is, wake up every morning and be thankful that you have one”. – Anonymous
Golden rules or words is our top motive when it comes to teaching good behavior to kids. But ‘please‘, ‘thank-you‘, and ‘gratitude’ is much more than just a few good words. Being thankful and kind is a mindset with the right approach towards life.
Being Thankful – have a big heart, pray, and say thank you
Granny always taught me to be humble and use right words. Every wrong word popped out of mouth called repentance. Especially with the works which I never liked, say cleaning road lead to the home entrance. Trimming outgrown bushes, watering plants and being gran’s company at ‘gurudwara‘. As a kid, I never understood why is she so keen on good/bad behavior? But yes, all those ‘punitive activities’ refrained me from being mean or using foul words for anyone.
Another valuable lesson from her is that do not ‘ask almighty for grants’, that’s being mean and greedy. Instead, pay thanks for giving us everything that we have. She told me a story a long time ago about the man with a golden egg. Every morning his hen laid ‘one golden egg‘, which was quite sufficient for them and their wealth increased. So is his greed and he decided to cut open tummy of the hen to get all ‘golden eggs’ in one go. Next day morning when he butchered his hen, neither he found the golden eggs, nor is his hen alive now. Moral of the story – Be happy and thankful for what you have.
Her lessons stuck with me for life, even though I never liked those ‘strict instructions’ in childhood. But I thank my stars for blessing me with a gran like hers. She is still keeping an eye on me from up above, as I am using all her strategies with my daughter today.
Being Thankful is a blessing, teach kids ‘gratitude’
As I mentioned at the beginning of the post, ‘thank-you’ is just not a word. It’s an expression of mindset. Teach kids the real value of being thankful, tell them how to appreciate happiness. Children are like wet clay, mold them with caution and right principles. Teach them to ‘appreciate‘ things life has given us – water, air, sun, moon, stars, nature and many more.
Gratitude pie – ask children to draw a pie-chart and mention five things they are thankful for. The answers or mentions would be outright hilarious but this will give them a chance to understand happiness. When I asked my daughter to draw one such pie, her third mention was – ‘eggs‘. She loves eggs in her breakfast and thankful to God and hen for giving her eggs. Didn’t I tell you hilarious 😉
P.S. I learned about the gratitude pie from a dear friend, and a wonderful blogger Upasana Sethi.
Children learn it from You – I have learned it from my family and my child will take it from us. Children pick smallest of the things looking at us. They try to imitate us, and in the pretense of aping, they get lessons of life. I have seen this with my daughter, who imitate her Dad in morning prayers. He never forgets to pay homage to almighty supreme one. She enacts exactly like her dad, comes out fresh from the shower in a bathrobe and straight away walks to pay her respects. This has become her ritual, and everyday morning after bath we can hear her saying ‘Gayatri Mantra‘ with joined hands.
I recall my mother’s favorite lines – ‘ati sab ki buri‘ which means an excess of anything is bad. An old adage is – “everything in moderation“, we must include this in parenting and teach same to our kids. Explain them the value of minimalistic lifestyle. Giving in to their demands everytime is not right, and gives a bad precedent in terms of utility and advantage. Let them understand the need and alternate of their demand. A new toy comes only when you give away your old toys to those who need it. Or what else ‘needful’ thing can be bought in the same amount of money as the toys or dress. Recycling is another such wonderful thing and goes well with current situation of saving mother nature.
Certain things in life are good to be taught in young age, they stay with you for life. Like ‘Gratitude’ and ‘Thankfulness’.
This post is written for #BlogchatterA2Z series by Blogchatter, and my theme for this challenge is Gleeful Parenting.
PREVIOUSLY FROM THE SERIES –
R for Respectful Parenting.
S for School Safety.