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Thoughtful Parenting – Theme Reveal #CauseAChatter

February 12, 2020
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Thoughtful parenting – is more to do with parents and less with the kids. It’s our reflections as parents on the kids’ physical, emotional and mental wellbeing. Are you a thoughtful parent? Is your behavior well thought in front of the kids? Do you really think about your decisions and actions taken in the matters related to your children?

Blogchatter has provided bloggers with a wonderful initiative, via #CauseAChatter blogging challenge. We all blog for a reason, just scratch those grey cells a little and find the purpose you blog.

For me, I like to write about – Lifestyle – tips/hacks, entertainment. Occasionally stirring the Health cauldron for our younger ones. Money matters (thanks for my banking years). I love cooking up some thrillers, check out the Fiction section on the blog. But Parenting is the one, that gets me talking.

As a hands-on-mom, Parenting Gyan is an easy call. I prefer writing on constructive parenting – which aids in building parent-child relationships. With #CauseAChatter, I am aiming to convert the energy towards Thoughtful Parenting. Which involves topics such as –

  • Detailed view of Thoughtful Parenting – What, Why, by Whom, Tips, Ideas, etc.
  • Mental & Emotional build-up – Parents and Children.
  • Gender biased parenting.
  • Equal parenting.
  • Transitioning age – Parenting from small to grown-up kids.
  • Rapid changes in the kid’s behavior.
  • Red Flags of Parenting.
Thoughtful Parenting #CauseAChatter

Why Thoughtful Parenting?

Thoughtful parenting is the style of parenting where you put conscious efforts to understand and reason out with children. It is way different from the parenting we have grown under.

Today, kids are smarter and they are well aware of ways to get around with their parents. At the same time, parents go out of their league to address kids. There are grey zones, no one wishes to talk about and then some areas where everyone has a lot of scoops to address.

With thoughtful parenting series, we will learn to be a conscious parent. Now, if you wish to be a part of this wonderful campaign kindly Register here and start writing!

#CauseAChatter Blogging with a purpose theme reveal
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No one likes to be angry or screaming all the time, but we all have those moments when sanity leaves us temporarily and we end up yelling/fuming/screaming a lunatic’s way. Once the tide of this outburst fades away, we end up being – guilty! Guilty of behaving a particular way which we despise, does this happens with you?? If yes, welcome aboard dear friend – today we will talk about the reasons mommies get angry and how to self-control it – Anger Management.

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Firstly identify the weak points where you loose self control and transform into a screaming ‘monster‘, it could be as trivial as kid not listening or being adamant or any x.y.z. reason.. most important is use your best weapon – instincts and chart down the reasons we loose our grip on controlling anger. Say for example in my case I loose my sanity over two things –

  • when she doesn’t listen to me, even after saying it multiple times
  • if she still doesn’t understand why I am telling her to STOP trillionth time.

I know, we all sailing in the same boat – that’s what ‘mommyhood’ is all about isn’t it?  As a parent, we are balancing many different hats at one go – work, home, kid, social, family, etc… hence it is natural to loose our turf at times and yell on the most loved treasures of our live’s – KIDS when they don’t cooperate or things go hay wire. Apart from kids associated stress there are many other factors which can lead to being agitated/irritated, like –

  • lifestyle related stress
  • uneven sleep pattern
  • dehydrated body
  • PMS
  • weakness, etc.

So, once our 007 James Bond kind of spying tells us the reasons of falling prey to ANGER we are one step close to solving the problem – via Anger Management Tips & Techniques.

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Anger management – ideas to self-control anger

I firmly believe in self-healing or self-controlling process, our brain has capability of moving mountains (not quite literally please) when determined. Hence, managing anger related issues which are by-products of our life-style or stress is just a fickle. Here are some easy ways to keep the hooter under tight control –

  • Calm Down and Relax –
    • Best calm down activity that I do when anger attack struck my sanity is – Drink Water. Yes, as easy as that – drink a glass full of water and count 1 – 10 or 100 depending upon your temperament 😉
    • Relax, take deep breaths and listen to yourself – once you listen to your agitated voice or shrill, brains instantly command’s you to slow down.
    • Do what you like most – cooking, listening to music, writing, having tea, dancing or whatever pleases you.

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  • Have you picked up Yoga/Meditation yet –
    • I am still learning the art of self restraining by concentrating all energy via meditation, it is something I recommend to all my readers. Benefits of Meditation & Yoga is known to all, but this is the time to take a step towards implementation
    • Start from beginner resources available online, or enrol in yoga class easy do-at-home yoga/meditation tricks also help in relaxation and boosting self control.

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  • Accept and move on – It’s alright if you have committed a mistake, after all we are all human first and then Mommy. Sorry Seems to be the Hardest Word – Elton John said so 😉 but yes saying Sorry to the victims of our outburst is healthy, it releases us from in-built guilt. (though when the victim is husband, it’s tough to cough up sorry 😀 ) This is the most effective trick of Anger Management.
  • Practice makes a Mom perfect – keep practising the habits, things, remedies, tricks that keep your anger at bay. Failed once, twice, thrice makes you so rich with experience that you will outshine.
  • Take a Day Off – plan a day out with friends or go on a shopping hike or self pampering regime, anything that gives you a break from monotony of daily routine. Pro Tip – Keep daddy dear as baby-sitter and enjoy your day out. (trust me all the parties will love that, read here)
  • Keep a close watch – Be watchful, even when you loosing grip on your anger make sure a strict control over your limbs. Hitting in anger would be the worst lesson you ever wish to teach your child, if the situation gets so out of control – the best remedy is leave that place for a while. Once, the senses comes back in your control talk it out and let it GO.

Always remember what our great book of wisdom says – 

“Hell has three gates – lust, ANGER and greed”. – Bhagavad Gita 

I would love to learn more about the Anger Management from all you readers, please share some tips and techniques you adopt to control Yelling 🙂

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Why is stimulation important for the Child’s Development?

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Importance of stimulation to feed IQ to your baby

When a child is born, so takes birth the responsibility to bring up a smart, healthy, and wise human being. We as parents provide them with the best nutrition, education, social and moral understandings. For a parent, the biggest goal of life is – see the children do good in everything they undertake. But to achieve success, the efforts need to begin from the very start.

It was not long ago when I was having this casual discussion with an auto-rickshaw driver, about school-based education. He mentioned how his son would solve crosswords puzzles and number maze in old torn newspapers. Seeing the talent of this six years old boy, he enrolled him in some Mathematics classes and the kid excelled in all sorts of number logic exams. The boy later took part in the state-level competition and won it with flying colors.

I was amazed by this little story, how this daily wage earner gauged the interest of little boy and enrolled him in stimulation classes. We parents are the basic necessity providers for children, and it is our duty to create a conducive environment of growth for them.

Importance of Simulation for the child’s overall growth

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Do you know that the first three years are most crucial in a child’s life? This is the time when the brain develops and grows at its fastest pace. In this stage the brain acts like a sponge, absorbing everything inside those tiny neural walls. The child learns to communicate and develops a relationship with the outside world.

The brain learns the basic structure of communication, emotional and mental reasoning, social behavior, and more. Hence, proper nutrition becomes the focal point during this growth phase. Complete nutrition makes smart and healthy kids, but often we ignore the aspect of the brain or cognitive development in the quest of making them healthy.

Brain simulating games, mental exercises, puzzle games, and plays, stimulate the brain to make children active, alert, and smart. Cognitive development takes the focus in this learning stage, making kids inquisitive to seek more and more information. Hence, nutrition and health should be integrated to create an environment for children to learn.

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Family plays a crucial role in cognitive development and growth

FeedIQ; the concept I have covered in my previous health & child-development posts emphasizes the holistic growth of a child from early pregnancy. Cognitive skills are the intellectual skills developed over time with the help of various mental stimulating activities.

“The growth and development of a child are facilitated by providing care, responsiveness, and stimulation. Responding to babies with love and warmth makes them feel secure, loved and assured about the fulfillment of their needs. The more you interact with your young ones, the more rapid their development is. As a mother/caregiver, you play many roles in the physical, emotional, social, and intellectual development of your child.” – reference indexed.

With the current scenario at studies and fast pacing world, adaptability is the biggest virtue. As a mother, I emphasize more on building adaptability and presence of mind in kids as compared to bookish know-how. Simulating intellectual growth help kids to learn the basic of overall education paradigm.

Cognitive Development and Feed IQ

As a family, all members must equally participate in boosting cognitive development in the children. This brings different views and perspectives on shaping a better understanding. I remember during childhood days when granny would delegate a few of her ‘social-work’ jobs to me. For the role of junior committee coordinator, my job description was to – interact with all members and to keep track of numbers. This helped me to get over the basic hesitation of meeting and interacting with new people. During the hostel stint much later in life, this trait helped in breaking-ice easily, making new friends and building new relationships.

need and role of cognition development in babies. The need of simulation is crucial for infants to connect with the surroundings.

 

Role of a father during early development in children brings a new perspective of growth. Quite obviously a male will have a different aspect of understanding than that of a female. Hence, when fathers encourage or inspire a child to learn or perform it brings a positive push towards accomplishment.

Also, it helps a child to learn gender equality and a wider perspective of life. I have seen my father doing kitchen chores or school duties many times in life. So does my partner. He doesn’t mind being the chef for a day or cleaning dishes when required. This opens up the barrier of mindsets and a child learns easy adaptability for better growth prospects.

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Listen to kids by giving them undivided attention. Attending to their questions or welcoming opinions are the ways of building strong emotional trust between parents-children. Playing is the foremost element of early childhood stimulation and central to good mother-child interaction. Babies, infants, and children learn through play. Play strengthens the bonds between parents and children.

Healthy growth of a child depends on the environment we provide them. A conducive and happy environment with growth stimulating activities and positive response from parents boost cognitive development in children. As parents and nurturers, we must inculcate healthy relationship with kids and invest time in brain-stimulating exercises like plays, mental-verbal development games, storytelling etc.

Always remember the brain adapts as per the surroundings.

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© Dipika Singh. Unauthorized use or duplication of this material without express and written permission from this site’s author is strictly prohibited. Excerpts and links used, provided that full and clear credit is given to Dipika Singh (Gleefulblogger). With the right and specific direction to the original content.

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The content is not for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of a qualified health provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition.

Ref. 1. Integrating Early Childhood Development activities. http://www.who.int/mental_health/emergencies/ecd_note.pdf

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