Mirror Mirror on the Wall, who is FAIRER of the All?


It’s not fair at all – The color discrimination in Indian Society!

I am so thankful to God that I am blessed with a complexion which is a valid certificate to achieve the biggest and mightiest of all – a wealthy groom! Oh yes, I am not kidding you, the most crucial & significant identity a girl can possess is – become a bride of a wealthy groom. Secure her future with a big ticket of trophy wife! A wealthy Missus who is fairest of all and the most crucial prerequisite is – Gori-chitti skin tone. Well, that’s what I have been listening from all the social butterflies, buas, taais, and chachis, etc.. etc.

What’s with the Skin Color?

I am an MBA (Master of Business Administration), worked in International organizations in India and abroad. Have taught in postgraduate colleges, and now blogging since a year and a half. But till date, my mental caliber is unable to perform a simple calculation – the connection between skin color and secured future.

It has to be something very sacred or taboo the only reason my granny never gave out the secret. Or it could be that I was terrified of mathematics hence she must felt pity for her poor granddaughter and saved me from all that duress.

A long long time ago, during a ‘satsang’ at home granny’s friend quipped with satisfaction r; “aapko toh tension nahi hai bhabhi, ye itni gori hai… abhi se acche rishton ki line lag jaayegi”. I was speechless to even comment or show my dismissal. (For the record, I chose my partner myself and without bothering about his tone or undertone) ??

Being a North Indian I have grown up with the constant reminder  of gora-kaala complexion. We say westerners are racist but have we ever wondered how we – the most culturally diverse and rich society behave when it comes to race, colour, creed and such trivial stuff. The insane race to get the natural complexion altered by some shades is maddening. You walk in to any beauty/cosmetics shop, more then half products talk only about skin whitening or fairer skin in 3 weeks or so. Recently I read about Nandita Das being open about her experience in the entertainment industry and how she boycotted all “skin whitening cosmetics”. This is not a superficial issue, but it lies deep inside our roots….that knowingly or unknowingly we are following the same cognitive pattern our forefathers have charted ages back…

Fault in your stares.

One day my daughter asked me if she can also have tea, she is still so young to have tea and I refused her. But the way I refused her made me think twice and whack myself in the head….. “if you drink tea; you will become black like tea“. She looked at me and asked mom you drink tea all the time why aren’t you black then????? This made me realise that even if I don’t have this belief of dark/light skin tone but my reasoning is still incorrect; probably because this is how we have been brought up in our society.

Open any matrimonial page in your news daily, and you will see – required a fair, beautiful girl for a handsome boy. We all are attracted towards “fair”, what about the other traits in a girl? Will a fair skin girl provide extra income to a lower middle class family? Will she make special food that a dark or wheatish skin tone girl can’t? Or she’l be able to climb corporate ladder multiple positions in one stroke??? None of this is possible depending on complexion so what’s the big deal about it? Remember all those television ads where the actor says; 5 din mein yaha se waha (from dark to snow white) I wonder if Yami Gautam is boon for Film Industry or Fairness providing cosmetic brands (pun intended). Media reports covering our favourite celebrities often term some chosen ones as ‘dark and dusky beauty’; again my stance is WHY DO WE NEED THIS DIFFERENCE?

We as mother’s or guardians of upcoming generation can bring about a change, only when we inculcate this change in ourselves. It’s a gradual process, we probably have to unlearn many things but let’s do it for a FAIR future (I mean equal & reverent)

Hope you like reading this small take on our disbalanced likes & dislikes. Don’t forget to leave your comments below. Thank You for reading…. keep loving and following @gleefulblogger


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  1. Ha ha.. Your post made me nostalgic.. I have fair complexion but as a child every one used to show sympathy as I am not fair like my brother.. I used to bullied my seniors for the same, they used to ask me Yeh tera saga bahi nai.. So many thinga to write but I should stop here only ?

  2. Some people are really obsessed with fair complexion and that’s absurd.

  3. Its not just Indian soceity but it is very important to possess a fair complexion in many other countries too. Even korean cosmetic companies come out with whitening formulas all the time. Is beauty really skin deep?

  4. I never understand the concept of who is more fair or wheatish etc. I also not much gori gori but still i am proud of myself on what i am.

  5. Its not just the fair complexion.. i am wheatish.. i have some hormonal problems due to which I have huge breakouts.. i am 19 and my relatives keep saying that i look ugly and no one will marry me

    1. Same here…but for a different reason

  6. I’m fair enough … But every one still compare my complextion with my husband that I am not fair like my husband. However, I don’t have any inferiority complex. I’m very happy with my skin tone.

  7. This is a topic which most of us face every now and then. But I’m glad you wrote to support against the backward notion that we Indians possess.

  8. Very true. It’s not only Indians, whole of Asian subcontinent is obsessed with fairness. You would like to explore the work done by a non-profit organisation called ‘Women of Worth’

  9. This article is so relate able.

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