Child – Education beyond books
Sunita worked as house-help all her life; washing dishes, mopping floors, sweeping, laundry she accepts any of these chores with a smile. With fixed changes for each job, she is highly recommended house help of her area. Over chatty if you give her a chance by asking questions about her three children – two daughters and one son. She toils from morning to-night with a dream, a dream to get them the highest education to overcome poverty and live a respectable life.
Around last summer vacations her elder daughter escaped with a boy from their neighborhood, she was inconsolable. A sincere college student with a handsome earning vocational job, took such an extreme step without any indication or warning bells. Obviously, Sunita could not accept this betrayal and took ill. By the time she came to terms with the reality, she received a notice from the police station. Her son is arrested in a forgery case, where he worked as delivery boy.
Her pain is beyond words, devastated by the personal losses she kept blaming herself and destiny. Children for whom she worked day and night, slogged her life in petty jobs have given her no happiness. She kept dreaming of their better future, but they chose their own life and ways. But who is to BLAME for this? Sunita, her children, her parenting or their eco-system?
Child Education and Eco-system
Eco-system our social space – We are social beings, and society marks huge impression on us. Interacting within our eco-system reflects us as part of social system. Education, parenting, learning, cultural, regional, technology are part of eco-system. All aspects of social life are inter-related and has influence on every facet.
Children learn from their experiences and exposures in society. In Sunita’s case, she gave best education and exposure to her kids but social factors were stronger determining factors. When it comes to education we give our children the best of our knowledge, however social factors are beyond our control. Bridging the gap with correct approach helps in balancing educational eco-system for children.
Ways to create balance between education & eco-system
Discuss – discussion is the finest way to create a healthy and trust-worthy bond between relations. Keep the forum open to ask tough questions. There is no harm if child asks you questions beyond their age. If they have a query provide them right information and what better source than parents.
Do not paint the picture green – Keep it original, we often show them the bright side of every aspect but that’s not always true. It’s good that we try to enclose negativity, but knowing the real-life scenario is also vital. Imagine a situation when child is all on its own, but reality seems so dissimilar from what parents have explained. This also prepares them for uncertainties in future.
Education is also beyond the books – when we say educate, that’s not necessarily means bookish knowledge. Human values, sex-education, morality, culture, traditions, empathy life has many traits and a child must know this all. Teach them righteous ways of life, based on age and their understanding.
Unlearn to teach – when we explain a situation to children, we act as per our cognition. To think like them and enable better understanding, we have to unlearn our mind-blocks. For instance – screen time for kids is something I am not very comfortable with. But at the same time, abolishing screen time completely might turn into negative stimuli, as her peers have privilege of same. So, we work on a plan with limiting the screen-time based on her performance. She can only have her mobile apps and gaming when homework is completed on time.
We can only impart holistic education to our children, if we understand their complete eco-system.
This post is written for #BlogchatterA2Z series by Blogchatter, and my theme for this challenge is Gleeful Parenting. Previously from the series –
D for Discipline