anger management

No one likes to be angry or screaming all the time, but weย all have those moments when sanity leaves us temporarily and we end up yelling/fuming/screaming a lunatic’s way. Once the tide of this outburst fades away, we end up being – guilty! Guilty of behaving a particular way which we despise, does this happens with you?? If yes, welcome aboard dear friend – today we will talk about the reasons mommies get angry and how to self-control it – Anger Management.

Anger management – spy mom

Firstly identify the weak points where you loose self control and transform into a screaming ‘monster‘, it could be as trivial as kid not listening or being adamant or any x.y.z. reason.. most important is use your best weapon – instincts and chart down the reasons we loose our grip on controlling anger. Say for example in my case I loose my sanity over two things –

  • when she doesn’t listen to me, even after saying it multiple times
  • if she still doesn’t understand why I am telling her to STOP trillionth time.

I know, we all sailing in the same boat – that’s what ‘mommyhood’ is all about isn’t it? ย As a parent, we are balancing many different hats at one go – work, home, kid, social, family, etc… hence it is natural to loose our turf at times and yell on the most loved treasures of our live’s – KIDS when they donโ€™t cooperate or things go hay wire. Apart from kids associated stress there are many other factors which can lead to being agitated/irritated, like –

  • lifestyle related stress
  • uneven sleep pattern
  • dehydrated body
  • PMS
  • weakness, etc.

So, once our 007 James Bond kind of spying tells us the reasons of falling prey to ANGER we are one step close to solving the problem – via Anger Management Tips & Techniques.

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Anger management – ideas to self-control anger

I firmly believe in self-healing or self-controlling process, our brain has capability of moving mountains (not quite literally please) when determined. Hence, managing anger related issues which are by-products of our life-style or stress is just a fickle. Here are some easy ways to keep the hooter under tight control –

  • Calm Down and Relaxย 
    • Best calm down activity that I do when anger attack struck my sanity is – Drink Water. Yes, as easy as that – drink a glass full of water and count 1 – 10 or 100 depending upon your temperament ๐Ÿ˜‰
    • Relax, take deep breaths and listen to yourself – once you listen to your agitated voice or shrill, brains instantly command’s you to slow down.
    • Do what you like most – cooking, listening to music, writing, having tea, dancing or whatever pleases you.

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  • Have you picked up Yoga/Meditation yetย 
    • I am still learning the art of self restraining by concentrating all energy via meditation, it is something I recommend to all my readers. Benefits of Meditation & Yoga is known to all, but this is the time to take a step towards implementation
    • Start from beginner resources available online, or enrol in yoga class easy do-at-home yoga/meditation tricks also help in relaxation and boosting self control.

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  • Accept and move on – It’s alright if you have committed a mistake, after all we are all human first and then Mommy.ย Sorry Seems to be the Hardest Word – Elton Johnย said so ๐Ÿ˜‰ but yes saying Sorry to the victims of our outburst is healthy, it releases us from in-built guilt. (though when the victim is husband, it’s tough to cough up sorry ๐Ÿ˜€ ) This is the most effective trick of Anger Management.
  • Practice makes a Mom perfect – keep practising the habits, things, remedies, tricks that keep your anger at bay. Failed once, twice, thrice makes you so rich with experience that you will outshine.
  • Take a Day Offย – plan a day out with friends or go on a shopping hike or self pampering regime, anything that gives you a break from monotony of daily routine. Pro Tip – Keep daddy dear as baby-sitter and enjoy your day out. (trust me all the parties will love that, read here)
  • Keep a close watchย – Be watchful, even when you loosing grip on your anger make sure a strict control over your limbs. Hitting in anger would be the worst lesson you ever wish to teach your child, if the situation gets so out of control – the best remedy is leave that place for a while. Once, the senses comes back in your control talk it out and let it GO.

Always remember what our great book of wisdom says –ย 

“Hell has three gates – lust, ANGER and greed”. – Bhagavad Gitaย 

I would love to learn more about the Anger Management from all you readers, please share some tips and techniques you adopt to control Yelling ๐Ÿ™‚

Linking this post with #MondayMommyMoments byย ย Amritaย &ย Deepa

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44 Comments

Deepa · July 23, 2017 at 2:07 pm

Haha..enjoyed reading this post Dipika. I like all the points you mentioned especially that pic with puppy enjoying is very cute. I wish we moms can relax like that too. But it’s not that easy as our kids keep us on our toes all the time. Thanks for linking up with #mmm ๐Ÿ™‚

    gleefulblogger · July 23, 2017 at 3:40 pm

    Thanks a lot Deepa.. yeah *wishing a relaxing pillow for us all*

Amrita Basu · July 24, 2017 at 5:05 am

โ€œHell has three gates โ€“ lust, ANGER, and greedโ€. โ€“ Bhagavad Gita.
Dipika I loved this quote .You are so right .We need to find out why we are getting angrier.The little ones need to listen but we need to learn better control too.Meditation does help.I just downloaded a nature sound app on my phone.Its cool with birds chattering or ocean sounds.I will be drinking water when I get angry next time.This I need to try.
Thank you for always helping us and writing with us fot #MondayMommyMoments.

    gleefulblogger · July 24, 2017 at 5:42 am

    Thanks a lot Amrita, you are my motivational guru. I always look up to your comments to know more and do better. Thank you being my inspiration

      Amrita Basu (Misra) · July 30, 2017 at 3:39 pm

      Dipika you are very kind .Thank you.

upasna · July 24, 2017 at 7:44 am

Its been more than 10 days now that I caught up in anger but yesterday night- I failed. Was not getting enough Husband’s time. I scolded Kiddo due to the accumulated emotions. Feeling the guilt now. I think I should resort to sorry now.

    gleefulblogger · July 24, 2017 at 7:55 am

    Thanks for stopping by Upasna, yes we all have our tipping points. At times thr control just crashes off. Just a sorry solves it all. Have a stress free time ๐Ÿ™‚ and lots of cuddles from lil one

Alpana Deo · July 24, 2017 at 9:05 am

Accept and move on and keeping a close watch is very important and also helpful in anger management..accepting is tough though solution to most of the tough situations..

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    gleefulblogger · July 24, 2017 at 5:31 pm

    Thank you so much for reading

Shubhreet Kaur | Raising Karma Blog · July 25, 2017 at 3:36 am

These are great tips! I have to admit, i go get very irritated sometimes and yell at Karma when she is really acting up. Though I have learned to be more patient, there is always room for improvement. And to be honest, your post is helpful not just for dealing with kids but also managing ourselves and being calm in general. ๐Ÿ™‚

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    gleefulblogger · July 25, 2017 at 6:46 am

    Thanks a lot Shubh.. glad you like it

Jiya B · July 25, 2017 at 4:21 am

Loved the post. We moms need so much of these anger management tips. We do n number of things and its natural that we may get angry and loose are cool. But trust me the way you have explained I just loved it.

    gleefulblogger · July 25, 2017 at 6:45 am

    Thank you so much… i am glad you liked the post๐Ÿ˜

Minakshi Bajpai · July 25, 2017 at 4:41 am

My husband tells same to me – To sit down, relax and count till 10 to get a hold of ‘Mother’ inside. I am a patience less person. My tiny kids face a lot because of my anger. Although i practice few of the things already like keeping a close watch upon myself but there is a long way for me to go. I just wish to learn anger management skill on time.

    gleefulblogger · July 25, 2017 at 6:44 am

    You are superwomen Minakshi nothing is tough for you.. more power to you

Mahak @babyandbeyondin · July 25, 2017 at 5:43 am

I think that taking a step back and counting to 10 is the best way to calm yourself down so that you don’t do or say anything rash in a moment of anger.

    gleefulblogger · July 25, 2017 at 6:47 am

    Thank You for reading and liking it

Kavita · July 25, 2017 at 6:43 am

Hehehehe thoroughly enjoyed reading it spy mom ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜ looks like I have to enroll for yoga now ๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›๐Ÿ˜›

    gleefulblogger · July 25, 2017 at 6:48 am

    Hahaha…. yes yes we all have to if want to be sane

Nisha Malik · July 25, 2017 at 7:31 am

Sometimes i really cant help shouting on my toddler and later its all guilt. Thnx for such a helpful article. It surely gonna help me.

    gleefulblogger · July 25, 2017 at 7:33 am

    Thank You Nisha glad you like it

Puspanjalee Das · July 25, 2017 at 8:43 am

I loved the post, Dipika! I specially need some serious tips for anger management. Most of the time, I am like “jalta hua angara” and need to take deep breaths to calm myself down.Your post has again inspired me to go for some meditation.

    gleefulblogger · July 25, 2017 at 10:56 am

    Thanks a lot dear, glad you liked the write-up. Water & Deep breathing is something which helped me many a times ๐Ÿ™‚

Manisha Garg · July 25, 2017 at 11:11 am

Anger Management is a tough subject to deal with. We cant be too harsh and cant always let it go. In a child case we need to take so much care. Your tips are useful and easy to follow.

Hena Jose · July 25, 2017 at 12:08 pm

I can for sure relate myself with this post. I thought of myself to be a calm and quiet person. But once kids came into life I discovered that I too have an emotion called Anger. One thing I discovered off late is as they are growing up, my anger is reducing, probably because I am not that much tired.

Nayantara |MommyingbabyT · July 25, 2017 at 3:12 pm

You write really well Dipika. Anger management is so important especially with my small baby. He seems to imitate and screams nowadays. ๐Ÿ™ I am trying my utmost to be patient but yes I do lose it at times. I have started going out and spending time with friends or something i enjoy. It has made me a calmer person.

Mrinal · July 25, 2017 at 4:48 pm

Loved the post.. it is not just motivational for moms but for everyone ๐Ÿ˜Š

Soumya · July 25, 2017 at 4:55 pm

Needed this right now. At my wits end with my toddler ๐Ÿ˜‘๐Ÿ˜‘ needed these tips!

Shipra Trivedi · July 25, 2017 at 6:27 pm

Loved reading this post ๐Ÿ™‚ I am poor in anger management but the best things that works for me is distracting myself and eating something. I am a big foodie and relishing some sweets always makes my mood better.

    gleefulblogger · July 26, 2017 at 2:53 am

    I heard eating in anger ignites the metabolic ratio and we tend to eat more …. justsaying.
    Thanks for reading

Snigdha · July 25, 2017 at 6:36 pm

The post is for me for sure… These days I have no control over my anger.. I get irritated very soon.. Deep breath we irks magic to calm me down… Your tips are so helpful and I am sure I am gonna apply these…

    gleefulblogger · July 26, 2017 at 2:52 am

    Thanks a lot Snigdha glad you liked the tricks

Mamma Bear | Nikita · July 25, 2017 at 9:42 pm

I donโ€™t have many tips to share but I really think stepping away from your child (provided the child is supervised by someone else or is in a safe place like a crib) does wonders to calm me down. I will try drinking water and counting to 10 too, I am sure that will help. And meditation seems to be the answer to most things so I am seriously considering doing that anyway.

Nikita.

Deepika Verma · July 26, 2017 at 2:20 am

Anger management is absolutely essential… I am so glad you wrote on this, my favorite mantra is go to a peaceful place and spend time in solitude

    gleefulblogger · July 26, 2017 at 2:51 am

    Thank you glad you liked

Preethi Venugopala · July 26, 2017 at 3:34 am

Loved the post, Dipika!
I don’t yell anymore. Rolling my eyes works enough!

    gleefulblogger · July 29, 2017 at 6:37 am

    Hahah i tried rolling many times after sometime my own eyes feel like popping out ๐Ÿ˜€
    Thanks for reading

Papri Ganguly · July 26, 2017 at 8:44 am

Much needed post for me. Sometime I really loose my temper and shouted over my hubby and daughter. thank you for sharing some awesome tips regarding anger management.

    gleefulblogger · July 29, 2017 at 6:36 am

    Thank you dear, glad you liked the post

Jasmeet Kaur · July 26, 2017 at 9:24 am

Haha, loved reading your post.. it gets really difficult for me to control my anger sometimes and I end up yelling.. but it only makes me feel worse and the situation is no better either

    gleefulblogger · July 29, 2017 at 6:36 am

    Thanks a lot dear that you liked my poat

Shub · July 26, 2017 at 7:45 pm

Mom means screamer! Should not be right? Yes, need to follow these tips…must!

    gleefulblogger · July 29, 2017 at 6:34 am

    Thanks a lot ๐Ÿ™‚

Ashima Jain · September 4, 2017 at 5:20 am

I have often realised that the cause of anger is more often our own frustration over which we have no control, which when let lose comes out as anger. If we can control and manage this frustration, it will help with anger management too.

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