by gleefulblogger

Feel like Yelling – Control & Manage Anger

July 23, 2017

No one likes to be angry or screaming all the time, but we all have those moments when sanity leaves us temporarily and we end up yelling/fuming/screaming a lunatic’s way. Once the tide of this outburst fades away, we end up being – guilty! Guilty of behaving a particular way which we despise, does this happens with you?? If yes, welcome aboard dear friend – today we will talk about the reasons mommies get angry and how to self-control it – Anger Management.

Anger management – spy mom

Firstly identify the weak points where you loose self control and transform into a screaming ‘monster‘, it could be as trivial as kid not listening or being adamant or any x.y.z. reason.. most important is use your best weapon – instincts and chart down the reasons we loose our grip on controlling anger. Say for example in my case I loose my sanity over two things –

when she doesn’t listen to me, even after saying it multiple times
if she still doesn’t understand why I am telling her to STOP trillionth time.

I know, we all sailing in the same boat – that’s what ‘mommyhood’ is all about isn’t it? As a parent, we are balancing many different hats at one go – work, home, kid, social, family, etc… hence it is natural to loose our turf at times and yell on the most loved treasures of our live’s – KIDS when they don’t cooperate or things go hay wire. Apart from kids associated stress there are many other factors which can lead to being agitated/irritated, like –

lifestyle related stress
uneven sleep pattern
dehydrated body
PMS
weakness, etc.

So, once our 007 James Bond kind of spying tells us the reasons of falling prey to ANGER we are one step close to solving the problem – via Anger Management Tips & Techniques.

Anger management – ideas to self-control anger

I firmly believe in self-healing or self-controlling process, our brain has capability of moving mountains (not quite literally please) when determined. Hence, managing anger related issues which are by-products of our life-style or stress is just a fickle. Here are some easy ways to keep the hooter under tight control –

Calm Down and Relax –
- Best calm down activity that I do when anger attack struck my sanity is – Drink Water. Yes, as easy as that – drink a glass full of water and count 1 – 10 or 100 depending upon your temperament 😉
- Relax, take deep breaths and listen to yourself – once you listen to your agitated voice or shrill, brains instantly command’s you to slow down.
- Do what you like most – cooking, listening to music, writing, having tea, dancing or whatever pleases you.

Have you picked up Yoga/Meditation yet –
- I am still learning the art of self restraining by concentrating all energy via meditation, it is something I recommend to all my readers. Benefits of Meditation & Yoga is known to all, but this is the time to take a step towards implementation
- Start from beginner resources available online, or enrol in yoga class easy do-at-home yoga/meditation tricks also help in relaxation and boosting self control.

Accept and move on – It’s alright if you have committed a mistake, after all we are all human first and then Mommy. Sorry Seems to be the Hardest Word – Elton John said so 😉 but yes saying Sorry to the victims of our outburst is healthy, it releases us from in-built guilt. (though when the victim is husband, it’s tough to cough up sorry 😀 ) This is the most effective trick of Anger Management.
Practice makes a Mom perfect – keep practising the habits, things, remedies, tricks that keep your anger at bay. Failed once, twice, thrice makes you so rich with experience that you will outshine.
Take a Day Off – plan a day out with friends or go on a shopping hike or self pampering regime, anything that gives you a break from monotony of daily routine. Pro Tip – Keep daddy dear as baby-sitter and enjoy your day out. (trust me all the parties will love that, read here)
Keep a close watch – Be watchful, even when you loosing grip on your anger make sure a strict control over your limbs. Hitting in anger would be the worst lesson you ever wish to teach your child, if the situation gets so out of control – the best remedy is leave that place for a while. Once, the senses comes back in your control talk it out and let it GO.