To Whoever It May Concern…

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We are in the last leg of #BlogchatterA2Z challenge, the week which brings the toughest letters to cramp in decent posts/titles. The letter of the day is ‘T’, hence, I thought to speak my current state of mind in this post. To Whoever It May Concern… It Doesn’t Matter!

Life is unpredictable, you cannot foresee what will happen the very next moment. But, as humans, we complicate it with various strings. We make relations, and start expecting love, relativity in return. When the same feelings are met with hostility, we call it a foul play. The reason behind every heartache, betrayal is our own expectations.

Is there a difference in ‘I don’t care‘, and ‘It doesn’t matter‘?

Yes, a huge one actually. When you say I don’t care, deep down you actually care a lot. The crux of all human problems. For every small feeling, tiniest acts of affection, relationships we build up huge expectations. When these expectations do not get reciprocated – heart breaks, depression, sadness, and other side effects.

So, shall we stop caring for ours? No, absolutely not! We are made to make connections, it’s in our DNA to be social. But no one said anything about expecting the same emotions in return. It’s normal to expect from those we care for or love. But blaming them for not reverting back with same dedication is wrong. So, to whoever it may concern…it doesn’t matter.

‘To Give and Not EXPECT anything in Return, that is what lies at the heart of LOVE.’

Rupert Everett

Not expecting in return, it’s easier said than done. When we love someone, we generally end up expecting far more from them. However, for our own good keep a tight leash on the emotions.

It doesn’t matter…

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That’s one thing I picked from my better half. He is always Mr. Calm when it comes to tricky ‘humanly’ situations. At the same point, I overreact end up raising my blood pressure and triggering migraines. I always wondered, how could he? How effectively he disassociate himself from sticky situations like betrayals, close confrontations, office politics.

After spending a decade with him, I have learned the art well but still momentary such things put me down. Reminding your heart all is well is a great thing to do, but there is one more lesson which life taught me – It Doesn’t Matter.


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8 thoughts on “To Whoever It May Concern…

  1. Omg, what a co-incidence today morning I had the same thought and promise to myself to work on this same thought “To not expect the same thing from others..”. lovely post and lovely series..will surely try to adopt all small things that you had mentioned in the posts, in my life.

  2. I found two more similarities between us – migraines and husbands unfazed by most of the things that get us worked up. You are so right when you say behind every I don’t care is the fact that we actually care about it. While in the case of it doesn’t matter, we manage to stay detached from the situation.

  3. I like this line: I don’t care, deep down you actually care a lot.

    Today I nominated you in a “Mystery Blogger Award” because I love your thoughts & blog.

  4. Ek dum sahi kaha ?? hum jab kehty hain ki i don’t care to kya wo sahi hota hai? Sabka apna nature hota hai , care karna humare nature me hai lakin ab maine bhi calm rehna seekh liya hai, mujh se jyada patidev ne )
    To ab sab kuch All Is Well hai

  5. To give without expecting anything in return and to believe ‘it doesnt matter’ are great strategies but these are easier said than done. A mature head can act on these calmly. But it is so very much needed for our peace of mind and sanity!!

  6. I know what you mean, D. We probably can never have ‘no expectations’ but we sure can avoid doing that for people who don’t matter in the bigger scheme of things. Our heartache should be able to make us realise that we invested our emotions in the wrong place.

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