“”Sharing is Caring – Teaching our children to share is teaching them compassion and love.” – Kevin Heath

No mom! we cannot give this dress to aunty. This is my favorite dress.‘ She said making such a poise face, even my heart skipped a beat.

‘But you have grown big beta, how will you fit in this now?’ I asked her, hoping she will give in.

I will keep it as a memory of my childhood‘. She is just 6 and talking about childhood.

Time being I decided to keep that dress, but this battle of giving or not is going on for some years now. Once she had refused a kid to sit in my lap, her age was just three then and hence we blamed child insecurity.

However, this insecurity, me and mine keep playing hide and seek with us. I discussed this with mother, however somehow I guessed what her answer would be. “Single Child, this is bound to happen“. When I opened my mouth to react, she snubbed me saying – ‘you never had problems with sharing, because you had siblings.‘ Now, who has bone to pick with a MOM? But I clearly know this is not the case of how many numbers of children one has.

care and share

Sense of Belonging

Children have an overwhelming sense of possession, hence sharing becomes tough for them. However, with age or some small routine changes, same can be altered.

Initiate sharing

Children can be taught sharing in various ways. One could be that by giving turns. First is your chance, second for another child. However, this may also lead to ‘why not me first?‘ issues. So parents have to tackle the situation carefully.

Make them in-charge

Let them resolve the matter, give them the lead and let them handle the tussle of sharing. By this way, they learn the problem-solving skills and also the issue in hand gets a practical solution.

Explain the utility

Children have curious minds and our simple NO enhance their curiosity manifolds on them. Hence, instead of using words like “No”, “Don’t”, “Never” explain them the utility. A discussion is the easiest solution to each and every problem.

This post is written for #BlogchatterA2Z series by Blogchatter, and my theme for this challenge is Gleeful Parenting. Previously from the series –

K for Kind Attention.

L for Laughter Therapy.

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7 Comments

  1. A thought provoking post. Actually kids generally are insecure about their things while young. once they go out and play with other kids they learn to share. It also depends on parents to inculcate for sure. The art of giving needs to be taught. Just last week my maid’s grandson had accompanied her and since the child was around 8 y.o i thought of giving him some gift. Having seen the gift my son inquired and i replied it was to gift the little guest. At first his eyes bulged and then i told him to hand over the gift to the kid. He handed it out to him. To give from one’s own hands is something we need to reinforce. Just picking and giving away of random used things that they don’t need is different but to give something brand new to someone we need to educate. lovely write up as usual!

  2. I have two kids in my household. Still they have issues with sharing! You are absolutely right in saying that it has nothing to do with single child or otherwise.
    This is a sensitive topic for children as well. But consistent prodding and walking the talk helps them understand the meaning of sharing.
    Very well put Dipika.

    Anagha Yatin
  3. Earlier times sharing was just given in joint families as shared, this is something which is very important and as a parent needs to be handled tactfully you have explained through the points so effectively saving this for reference.

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