Father Child Relationship and its ever changing dynamics!
Anxiously he looked at the card, unable to understand what I really mean. My poker face did not give any clues to reveal the surprise. Few troubled moments later he asked swiftly, is it a Yes or No? I burst out laughing, as never saw him so fluttered in life before. With a wink I replied in affirmation, he could not control his glee and we straight-away went to get our seal of confirmation from obstetrician.
The connection was already made, she loved her father from the moment they learned about each other. I was just the port carrying and passing happiness vibes to-and-fro. His touch and voice would make her catapult inside me, and I had to stay awake all night listening ‘hanuman-chalisa’ to sooth her movements down. He was with me throughout the birthing process, holding my hand tight. You think it was for me; oh no not at all, but for the tiny alien residing inside me.
He was the first one to hold her in arms, I still feel pained by the thought but yes that’s the fact of life. Everyone says she looked like him, from the day one till today the resemblance just got stronger and clearer. She is her father’s daughter inside-out, and as mother I get overwhelmed to see their connection par excellence. They say daughters are dearer to their dad’s, probably I was an exception or ‘Fatherhood’ really progressed?
Transformation – Father Child Relationship
I am an 80s kid and have grown up in a joint family, back then all relations had their ‘definition’. My father, is man of few words with limited involvement in day-to-day parenting activities. But he would deeply access everything related to studies and school. Our relation expanded beyond the pre-determined definition during my graduation days. We (read me) started interacting more and beyond educational periphery, however there were plenty such things which I could not dare to share with him.
Today I see fathers actively involved in parenting than earlier times. There is a clear shift in relationship bonding between father and child today. From conception to birth, child care to everything under the sun parents are equally sharing duties. I believe this is good for child development, as they experience dual view-points and perspectives from both sexes.
Father’s involvement in Child Development
Connect to family with unbiased gender roles. When a father is actively sharing parenting duties, children learn adaptability. With the ever-emerging work sphere, mothers can take up job related assignments and children get adjusted to changed scenario.
Emotionally balanced growth, families where father is actively involved in parenting duties are emotionally stronger. Children learn the art of balancing with larger perspectives for any given situation.
Father-daughter bonding – many would agree to this, that girls are more attached to their fathers. Girls build a stronger pattern-based connection, they often relate to father’s behavioral characteristics.
Social development of child strengthens when father is actively involved with children. Research says, children from families where father’s involvement is higher, score high on academics and self-dependency. Glad that parenting is ever evolving and thanks to all fathers who take this job seriously.
This post is written for #BlogchatterA2Z series by Blogchatter, and my theme for this challenge is Gleeful Parenting. Previously from the series –
D for Discipline
E for Education beyond Books